“Yes, and then you don’t do that [touching her] anymore. [short silence] I have tried it for a long time, very cautious. We really sat down for it, or actually, lie down [laughter]. And then I did this [make a touching gesture] very carefully, and kept looking at her, at her face, how she responded, right. If she responded at all [to his touching] […] I thought it would be alright eventually, if only I would develop that fingerspitzen sense, what you see sometimes with blind people, where it [the touching] can [be felt] and [where it] cannot [be felt]. But yes, it wasn’t meant to be uh.”
Michael’s partner was surgically treated for breast cancer. He was interviewed for our study on how partners experience and deal with their partner’s changed body.